Why is it that we allow our past relationships to dictate where our future ones are going?
The answer is pretty simple, because even after we have moved on, it doesn’t change the fact that the past is still a part of who you are. Even though we aim to live in the present, many of our choices are based on parts of our past.
We can’t seem to fully embrace the phrase, “You lived, you learned…”
It’s true the past can be an effective tool in the learning process but there is a time when letting the past dictate your future decisions can be ineffective; Such as in relationships.
“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” Aristotle
Self-discovery is such a crazy thing. Even crazier is the fact that it can and will continue to happen throughout the rest of your life. Sometimes you see it happening; you embrace and immerse yourself in the changes and discoveries. Other times, it hits you like a ton of bricks in the midst of a revelation or something that just gets down inside you and stirs you, whether for better or worst.
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Love isn’t supposed to hurt, or so I’ve been told but I am old enough to know that things don’t always turn out as planned. I never understood why people find it necessary to test another human being’s limits in order to truly call it love. In my lifetime I have loved and lost but I never could explain why some people felt it necessary, to attempt to break me down, only to come back into my life and claim how much they missed me and loved me.
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People tend to under estimate the true value of a thing called rest. Myself being no different from everyone else. One thing I can say is true, you need to take a moment to step back and smell the roses. I guess it’s true when parents tell their kids, “You need rest to be your best”. Not just rest of the body but also your mind and spirit. You will be surprised how many people truly lay awake at night anxious and uneasy over work related matters alone.
Know well enough to know when you are being treated unfairly; when there’s no give, just take. Know well enough to know when you are not 1/1 of 1 but one of many, walk away. Know when to stand up for yourself, for someone else, for something bigger than us all. Be Strong, be Assertive, Be Brave…
Going after what you want in this life is never easy, but I truly believe that nothing is ever really impossible. You might not always make it to you final destination, but you will be surprised how many obstacles you can overcome and how many points you can check off of “your bucket list” along the way. When I was in my early twenties, I recall finding a list I had made with my cousin when I was a little girl (unfortunately I do not know where the list is now) but I recall almost falling out of my seat when I read it. The points on the list were simple, it was an answer to the age-old question: “What do you want to be when you grow up?” My desires were as follows:
I’m J Christine, Former on On Air Personality for the EmbassyNYC Mixshow alongside DJ Myster from 2009 to 2012. I am an individual who loves all things music, entertainment and pop culture. I am known for being a guys’ girl, dedicated, driven, funny, hard on the outside, soft in the inside; and calling “a spade a spade”. Continue Reading